How to control emotions in Islam
Bismillah was shalatu was greeting ‘ala rasulillah, amma ba’du,
One of Satan’s weapons to destroy humans is anger. In this way, Satan can very easily control humans. Because of anger, people can easily pronounce the sentence of disbelief, sue destiny, talk dirty, chide out, even to the way sentence that dissolves the household.
Angry too, humans can damage everything around them. He can slam the plate, throw the glass, hit the right-at the left, even to the act of murder. At that moment, Satan’s mission to destroy men is reached.
Of course, the problem is not finished here. There is still something called revenge from the side who was scolded. You can imagine how much damage caused by anger.
Realizing this, Islam strongly emphasizes on humanity to be careful when emotional. Many motivations given by the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam so that humans are not easily provoked by emotions . Among them, he promised a very concise statement,
“Do not be angry, for you heaven.” (Narrated by Thabrani and pronounced saheeh in the book saheeh At-Targhib no. 2749)
Allahu akbar, an extraordinary guarantee. Heaven … supervised with various pleasures, for those who are able to resist anger. Hopefully this can motivate us not to be easily provoked by emotions.
How to control yourself when you are emotional?
So that we do not fall into greater sin, there are several ways to control emotions that are taught in the Qur’an and Sunna. Hopefully it can be a panacea for us when we are angry.
First, immediately request protection from Allah from the temptations of Satan, by reading Ta’awudz:
A-‘UDZU BILLAHI MINAS SYAITHANIR RAJIIM
Because the source of anger is Satan, so the temptation can be suppressed by asking for protection from God.
From the friend of Sulaiman bin Surd radhiyallahu ‘anhu , he told,
One day I sat with the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam . At that time there were two people who cursed at each other. One of them had a red face and his neck veins peaked. Then the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,
I really know that there is one sentence, if it is read by this person, his anger will disappear. If he reads ta’awudz: A’-uudzu billahi minas syaithanir rajiim, his anger will disappear. (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
In another narration, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “If someone is angry, then reads: A-‘udzu billah (I take refuge in Allah) then his anger will subside.” (Saheeh Hadith – genealogy As-Shahihah, no. 1376)
Second, SILENCE and oral guard
Innate angry people are talking without rules. So that he could speak something that invites the wrath of God. For this reason, silence is an effective way to avoid greater sin.
From Ibn Abbas radhiyallahu ‘anhuma , the Prophet sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam said,
“If you are angry, shut up.” (Narrated by Ahmad and Syuaib Al-Arnauth judge Hasan Lighairih).
Speeches of disbelief, excessive reproach, cursing destiny, etc., can be recorded by Allah as saving sin for this. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam reminded,
In fact there is a servant who utters one sentence, which he does not think too much about its effects, but derails it into hell which goes as far as east and west. (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
When our consciousness diminishes, when our conscience is closed by lust, keep oral carefully, don’t let this inexperienced tongue plunge you to the bottom of hell.
Third, take a lower position
The tendency of angry people is to always be higher … and higher. The more obeyed, the more he wanted. With a higher position, he can vent his anger to his heart’s content.
For this reason, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam gave the opposite advice. This angry order is muted by taking a lower and lower position. From Abu Dzar radhiyallahu ‘anhu , the Prophet sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam advised,
If you are angry, and he is in a standing position, he should sit down. Because with that anger can disappear. If you haven’t lost it, you want to take a sleeping position.(Narrated by Ahmad 21348, Abu Daud 4782 and his narrators were judged to be saheeh by Syuaib Al-Arnauth).
Abu Dzar radhiyallahu ‘anhu, a friend who narrated this hadith, protected himself when angry by changing his position lower. Narrated by Imam Ahmad in his Musnad, from Abul Aswad Ad-Duali, he recounted the incident experienced by Abu Dzar,
“One day Abu Dhar filled his bucket. Suddenly came some people who wanted to work on Abu Dhar. ‘Who among you dares to come to Abu Dzar and take some of his hair?’ one of them asked. “I am,” replied his friend.
Go this man, approach Abu Dzar who was near his bucket, and hit Abu Dhar’s head to get his hair. At that time Abu Dzar was standing. Beliaupun immediately sat down and went to sleep.
Seeing that, many people were astonished. ‘O Abu Dzar, why are you sitting, then sleeping?’ they asked in surprise.
Abu Dzar then delivered the hadith above. Subhanallah …, so is the spirit of friends in practicing the teachings of their prophet.
Why sit and sleep?
The person who stands up, is easy to move and hit, the person sitting, it is more difficult to move and hit, while the person sleeping, it is impossible to hit. Like this what was conveyed by the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. His order to sit down, so that people who are in a standing or sitting position do not immediately take an act of anger, which may cause him to regret his actions after that. (Ma’alim As-Sunan, 4/108)
Fourth, remember this tradition when angry
From Muadz bin Anas Al-Juhani radhiyallahu ‘anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam said,
“Who is trying to hold back his anger, even though he is able to vent it, then he will call God before all beings on the Day of Judgment, until Allah tells him to choose the angel he wants. (Narrated by Abu Daud, Turmudzi, and beaten by Al-Albani)
Subhanallah … who is not proud when he is called by God before all beings on the Day of Judgment, to receive a great reply? All humans and jinns witness this person, advance before them to receive a great reward from Allah ta’ala. Did you know, this reward Allah gives to people who are only limited to holding back emotions and do not vent their anger. We can imagine, how great the reward is, when what he does is not only holding back emotions, but also forgiving the guilt of that person and that reward him with kindness.
Initially Ali Qori said,
Beautiful praise and a great reply is given because it is limited to holding emotions. How else if added with an attitude of forgiveness or even rewarding with kindness. (Tuhfatul Ahwadzi Syarh Sunan Turmudzi, 6/140).
One more, which you can remember when angry, so you can ease your emotions:
Hadith from Ibn Umar,
Whoever holds back his emotions, Allah will cover his shortcomings. Who is holding back anger, even if he wants to, he is able to vent it, then Allah will fill his heart with pleasure on the Day of Judgment. (Narrated Ibn Abi Dunya in Qadha Al-Hawaij, and was judged hasan by Al-Albani).
Yes, but what’s difficult is not only that. There is one situation that is far more difficult to grasp before that, which is to condition ourselves when angry to remember the big reply in the hadith above. Generally people who are emotional forget everything. So it’s a small opportunity to be able to remember the reply that God gives to people who can hold back emotions.
Who are we compared to Umar bin Khatab radhiyallahu ‘anhu . Even so, he sometimes forgets the verses and recommendations of the Shari’a, when he has been carried away by emotion.
From Ibn Abbas radhiyallahu ‘anhuma , he relates that someone asked permission from the Caliph Umar to speak. Even if you allow it. Apparently this person was blind and criticized the Caliph.
‘O Ibnul Khattab, for Allah’s sake, you did not give us a lot of gifts, and not be fair to us. “
Hearing this, Umarun was angry, and was about to hit this person. Until finally Al-Hur bin Qais (one of Umar’s friends) reminded,
‘O Amir al-mu’minin, verily Allah says to His prophet sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam (which means): ‘Give forgiveness, command good, and do not ignore fools.’ and this person is a fool. ‘
For God’s sake, Umar did not vent his emotions when he heard this verse being read. And he is the most submissive man to the book of God. (Narrated by Bukhari 4642).
What is important, you do not despair, because all can be trained. Learn to remember God’s warnings, and follow and carry out. You can also ask for help from people around you, your husband, wife, children, employees, and those around you, so that they immediately remind you of the promises above, when you are angry.
In the opposite case, there were people who were angry at the time of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam . Beliaupun asked one friend to remind him, to read ta’awudz, A-‘udzu billahi minas syaithanir rajim ..
“One of his friends reminded this angry person: ‘Ask God for protection from the temptations of Satan!’ He instead commented: ‘Do you think I am sick? Am I crazy? Go away!’ (Narrated by Bukhari 6048).
Fifth, Immediately perform ablution or take a bath
Angry from demons and demons made of fire. Extinguish with cold water.
There are traditions from Urwah As-Sa’di radhiyallahu ‘anhu , which says,
Surely anger is from Satan, and Satan is created from fire, and fire can be quenched with water. If you are angry, he should do ablution. (Narrated by Ahmad 17985 and Abu Daud 4784)
In another history, from Abu Muslim Al-Khoulani, he recounts,
That Amir al-mu’minin Mu’awiyah had known ‘anhu had preached before the public. And at that time, employee salaries have not been submitted for two or three months. Abu Muslim also said to him,
‘Hai Muawiyah, in fact the treasure is not yours, not your father’s, nor your mother’s.’
Hearing this, Muawiyah asked the audience to stay in place. He came down from the pulpit, went home and took a shower, then returned and continued his sermon,
‘O people, actually Abu Muslim mentions that this property is not mine, not mine, nor mine. And Abu Muslim is right. then he mentioned the hadith,
Angry from the devil, the devil from fire, and water can extinguish the fire. If you are angry, take a bath.
Then Muawiyah ordered to surrender their salaries.
(Narrated by Abu Nuaim in Hilyah 2/130, and Ibn Asakir 16/365).
These two traditions are considered weak by the scholars. The first hadith was considered weak by An-Nawawi as he stated in Al-Khulashah (1/122). Syuaib Al-Arnauth in the ta’liq of Musnad Ahmad mentioned his sanad was weak. Likewise Al-Albani considered his sanad weak in the Ad-Dhaifah Lineage no. 581.
The second hadith is also not much different in status. Scholars of hadith scholars consider it weak. Because there is a guardian named Abdul Majid bin Abdul Aziz, called Ibnu Hibban as a Matruk (abandoned) narrator.
There are also scholars who have not ascertained the weakness of this tradition. Among them is Ibnul Mundzir. He said,
If this hadith is saheeh, the order in it is an order of encouragement to reduce anger and I do not know that there are ulamas who require ablution when angry. (Al-Ausath, 1/189).
For this reason, some experts still recommend ablution, without being intended as a sunna. This therapy is carried out only in order to reduce the heat of emotions and anger. Dr. Muhammad Najati said,
This hadith hints at secrets in medicine. Cold water, can reduce turbulent blood that arises when emotions. As this can be used to reduce high blood pressure. Because of that, in the past, bath therapy was used for psychological therapy.
(Nabawi Hadith wa Ilmu An-Nafs, p. 122. quoted from Fatwa Islam, no. 133861)
O Allah, we plead with you the haq sentence when you are happy and angry
[Prayer of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in his prayer – saheeh Jami’ As-Shaghir no. 3039]
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